• "I really want to do something different than what I am doing now, but I just don't know what it is"
• "I have two job opportunities, and am totally unsure which one to take!"
• "I know that there are a lot of things wrong about working with this client, but I really don't know what I will do if I stop working with him."
• "I don't feel really happy in this relationship, but I feel confused about what to do."
• "I really want to start a business, but I don't know if I have what it takes to be successful."

• My marriage may end if I tell the truth about how I feel
• I spent 3 years and $100,000 pursuing a law degree that I care nothing about and have no desire to use
• If I drop this abusive client, I will have to actually move forward with my own business plans and I don't know if I am ready for that yet
• If I leave this relationship, I will be alone and may never get the chance to have kids
• If I quit this job, I will have to admit that I made a bad decision and that is deeply embarrassing
• If I start a business and it doesn't work out, I may put my family at risk

"No one that Phaedrus talked to seemed really concerned about the phenomenon that so baffled him. They seemed to say, 'We know scientific method is valid, so why ask about it?'

Phaedrus didn't understand this attitude, didn't know what to do about it, and since he wasn't a student of science for personal or utilitarian reasons, it just stopped him completely. It was as if he were contemplating that serene mountain landscape Einstein had described, and suddenly between the mountains had appeared a fissure, a gap of pure nothing. And slowly, and agonizingly to explain this gap, he had to admit that the mountains, which had seemed built for eternity, might possibly be something else ... perhaps just figments of his own imagination. It stopped him."

• Create a risk/benefit chart for your conundrum. Draw a line down the center of a page. On one side list all the risks of making a decision, and on the other side list all the benefits. Sometimes the process of writing things down will add clarity. After you write the list, check in with each item and see if it is really true or just a fear. (such as an item on the risk side that says "If I quit my job I will end up homeless on the street." Ask yourself "is this really true?" What is more likely to happen, or what could I do to prevent this from happening? Same thing on the benefits side. Make sure you are adding things to the benefits side that are of real importance and value to you and are likely to happen)
• If trying to decide between job or business opportunities, create decision criteria. List all the qualities that would make an opportunity attractive, and rank your possibilities against this criteria. (for a sample, see this Career Decision Worksheet)
• If struggling with a relationship, identify the issues that are most troubling to you. Have a frank discussion (or two, or twelve, or however many you feel you need to decide where your partner is coming from) and see if there is a way to resolve them.

• Get out in nature. Removing yourself from stimulation and distractions will clear your mind and allow feelings to surface. Some people prefer to walk and think, others like to choose a quiet spot to sit and gaze at something beautiful. Zoning out is important, as is asking yourself the simple questions like "What do I really want?" or "What am I hungry for?" or "What's missing?"
• Pay attention to your body. Your "truth monitor" expresses itself through your body. When you ask yourself "is this true?," do you feel your muscles tense up or relax? Key body areas that tend to reflect emotion are your shoulders (tight muscles, aches and pains), chest (tightness in the lungs, shallow breathing), stomach (knots or feelings of nausea) and temples (tension, headaches).
• Distinguish between your "Nervous Nellie" and "Truth-telling Tina" voices. We all have them ... little nagging voices in your head that whisper things to you as you go through your day. Sometimes the voice is fear ("You are going to fall on your face in that presentation!) and sometimes it is truth ("No matter what happens in that meeting, you will be ok.") Learn to hear the difference between the voices, and trust Tina.

Escape from Cubicle Nation Teleclass

I will be offering one f*ree teleclass each month on the topic of Escaping from Cubicle Nation with a Question and Answer format. We always have a great discussion, and the calls are recorded to listen to afterward.

Call Details:
Escape from Cubicle Nation Q&A
The first Wednesday of every month (next one June 6)
3pm-4pm Eastern (12pm Pacific, 1pm Mountain, 2pm Central, 8pm UK)
To sign up for any of the upcoming classes for the rest of the year, see this page..

It is important to confirm that you signed up of your own will by opening up and clicking the link in the confirmation email. It will come from me (pcs@ganas.com) and the subject will be "Confirm your request for information for the (date) teleclass." Follow the simple directions in the email and you will confirm your attendance and receive the call-in details. I really look forward to meeting you on the call!

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